Sensual desire should be a part of your life. It is a NEED not a WANT. Having desire though, is only part of the equation to revitalizing your sex life. You also need to experience sensual indulgence. Indulgence is a wonderful erotic step towards opening up your feminine side.
Take a trip to a lingerie shop (Victoria Secrets or Fredrick’s of Hollywood spring to mind). Once you are comfortable, choose a few sexy things to try on. You may be attracted to a particular style, or perhaps a color or type of fabric.
Find something that feels sensual when you wear it. This is not for anyone’s eyes but yours. If you later decide to share your selection with someone, that’s fine. But right now, you are pleasing only yourself.
Try to purchase at least one item that challenges your impression of yourself sexuality. It’s okay to get a little crazy!
If you’d rather shop online & have something shipped to you:
http://store.thepassionzone.com/Sexy-Wear/Lingerie?a=passion_zone&cid=192 (this is my site – just an FYI)
Next on the agenda is a trip to the grocery store. Your task is to identify at least four or five foods that feel sensual when you eat them.
As with your choice of lingerie, your selections need to appeal only to you. Look for foods that have an alluring appearance, a seductive taste or an erotic consistency. Imagine what you will feel as you eat them.
Perhaps you derive the most sensual pleasure from sweet, juicy seasonal fruits such as cherries, strawberries, and peaches. Chocolate always is a favorite, as is ice cream. Wine and choose definitely can create a seductive, sexy mood. Or maybe a steak on the rare side does it for you. Have fun and a sense of humor when filling your basket.
Finally, you will want to visit your local bookstore. There you need find the selection of erotic literature. Your task is to locate this section and choose something wonderful from it. Among my clients paranormal erotic stories involving vampires & werewolves are popular as are books with “out of the comfort zone” sex (think Fifty Shades of Grey).
Try not to be concerned about what the people at the checkout with think of your purchase. They probably have discovered this tantalizing reading for themselves!
Want to look for erotica online?
http://www.literotica.com (free & some are way over the top – but there are good gems in there)
Amazon + Barnes & Noble both have extensive erotic novels.
Once you’re stocked up on the necessary supplies, schedule an evening alone at a time when you won’t be interrupted. Make the final preparations for your own seduction. Consider the music you want to hear. Are scented candles in order? Indulge in whatever will enhance your efforts to feel sexually alive.
You may want to begin your evening with a warm bath or relaxation exercise to help distance yourself from the day’s events. Then combine your lingerie, food, and erotica in ways that please you. Be slow and passionate about it.
Your goal is to make yourself feel good. Savor your sexiness. Welcome this part of you back into your life.