Love the skin you’re in! That was the theme of the Allie Theiss Show last night! In case you didn’t listen to the show, you can now:
Holly did most of the talking since my voice is MIA. I have a very happy son who loves that my voice is gone. Me – not so much! Since I couldn’t give my $.02 on the subject last night, I’m going to right here.
Self-esteem is vital to lending the ability to love yourself and therefore allow other people to love you. If you detest yourself, then the energy you give off encourages others to do the same. This is about romantic love. The love between a parent and a child is so strong that even self-esteem can’t break it. Other’s things can destroy a parent/child love, but self-esteem is not one of them.
In order to have the self-esteem to love yourself, you have to love all of yourself – not just the parts you think are “love worthy”. As humans, we can find anything and everything wrong with the skin we’re in – regardless if anyone else can find that same fault.
We’re tough on ourselves. No – scratch that – we’re BRUTAL.
Shame on us.
What made us that way? Why are we so tough on how we look?
Could it be the media – advertising – Hollywood?
Most people do not have professional make-up artists, hair stylists and photoshop to make them look beautiful:
Once you watch the above (and you really should), how about one more for good measure:
No one can live up to that. It’s unrealistic.
It’s like saying porn is how sex is done in the real world. Hardly.
We put so much stock into what we assume other people look like that we lose ourselves in the process. Boo hiss.
So what can you do not to land into this trap and in turn, ruin your self-esteem?
- Realize that what you see in magazines, billboards, on TV and the movies is usually not who they truly are in real life.
- Stop comparing yourself to fake images.
- Understand that you are a fabo person regardless if you have too much weight, not enough weight, love handles, a big nose, small nose, short legs, etc…
Once you stop comparing yourself to unrealistic expectations, your self-esteem will rise and you will love the skin you are in!