I have a fear of success; I’m not going to lie. It sounds so silly to say it out loud, but there you go.
Why the fear of success and not a fear of failure? Because fear of success means my life changes. It puts me at center stage where I’m supposed to be. It doesn’t allow me to play small any longer.
This FEAR of success is bigger than me. Oh yes, it is.
The Fear of Success
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Did you know that more people are afraid to succeed than they are to fail? There is one big reason for this, and it may surprise you when you learn about it.
When people fail, they can find all kinds of reasons or excuses as to why they failed. Others will even chime in as to why the person failed. They will say things like, “it wasn’t meant to be.” Another common one is, “your heart wasn’t in it.”
When people succeed, however. There are no excuses. The steps they took, worked. Perhaps it was a fluke that it worked. But what if it happens again? Then, there is no way out of it. Failure has an escape plan; success does not.
Why are people scared of success?
The reason people are afraid of success is it forces them out of their comfort zone. They now have to solidify their game plan and continue on the unbeaten path. The “can’t be done” excuse isn’t valid because they did it. It’s proven.
How do you overcome that fear of success? You plow through it. If you ever saw the movie Caddyshack, Ty tells Danny to “be the ball.” Although a comical reference, it means Danny needs to be one with the ball to play better golf. You need to be one with your business concept.
If you feel as though you can’t repeat the single success you had, think about what it took to get there, in the first place. You know the steps you took, map them out, and this can serve as your road map to repeat your success. If you find it difficult to do this, see hiring qualified people who can help you succeed.
Another way to repeat your success is to realign your belief system. Convince yourself that you are capable of succeeding and use that as the basis for moving forward. Think about all the benefits that come along with your success. Also, consider what your life would be like without this accomplishment and ask which do you like better.
For many, proving something can be done is enough for them and they move on. If you want to accomplish something, you need to push past this feeling. While it may be true that the thrill of proving it to yourself is gone, there is still more to do to keep the momentum going. Otherwise, you will always be chasing new thrills and never fully accomplish any one thing.