Many men suffer from ejaculation difficulties no matter what their age. It is important to note though, that ejaculation, a two step process involving the prostate and seminal vesicles, is different than orgasm which involves only the pelvic muscles. You can have an orgasm without ejaculation.
The Top 9 Causes of Ejaculation Difficulties:
1. Trying to jump in too fast for round two. The older a man gets, the more difficult it is to get ready for round two and if trying too quickly, men will have problems with ejaculation.
2. How you masturbate counts. Some men jerk their penis harder than any partner would or use a special lube. Nothing wrong with having your own unique way. But if your partner isn’t clued into this – a man will have a problem ejaculating.
3. Getting older. Yeah, we know it sucks to age (although it IS better than the alternative) but we all do it. As men age, they should notice that their penis loses some of its excitability, thereby it needing more stimulation for ejaculation. When men are younger they can have a problem of early ejaculation but as they age they can have a problem even getting it started.
4. The Pleaser Syndrome. You have sex to please your partner, even if you are in no mood to have sex. Because the sexual act is for the partner, the man places too much focus on their lover’s experience and not enough to their own making themselves lose sensual, erotic focus.
5. Life – stress and distractions. Stress gives headaches, stomachaches, erection problems and ejaculation difficulties. Self-focus, self-esteem are two other life stresses as well as fear of rapid ejaculation, fear of STD or unwanted pregnancy, anger at partner and a organized religious background.
6. Depression. It’s not lack of libido like men say it is — it’s depression. The drugs taken for depression also cause ejaculation difficulties, ED, loss of libido and a host of other sexual problems. It’s best to treat depression without medication.
7. Genital and prostate problems. Infection of the urethra or prostate. Surgery for benign prostate enlargement can cause a man to ejaculate but it goes backwards into the bladder.Prostate, lower colon, or rectal surgery can damage the sacral nerves that control the release of semen.
8. Neurological problems. If the nerves that control ejaculation are damaged, a man cannot ejaculate. Advanced diabetes, MS, paraplegia or other neurological conditions.
As you can see, ejaculation difficulties are not a black or white issue. It is always best to get checked out by a medical professional if you experience difficulties more than three times in a row.