You are born with an innate sense of self-worth that you build on and develop as you grow. You are supposed to BUILD upon it, not let others erase it. But deleting it is what happens through social media, advertising, magazines, & TV. Plus, let’s not forget the people closest to use: family, friends, spouse/partner/girlfriend/boyfriend.
There are five main sections to building up your self-worth, and in this post, we’ll examine all five to find out a bit about each.
Know and Understand Yourself
Knowing who you are inside has nothing to do with what clothes you wear, the things you own, the car you drive, or how much money you make. It isn’t about your education or lack thereof, or whether you are in a relationship or not. It IS about knowing what makes you uniquely and undeniably you. What do you love, what don’t you? Things that you enjoy? Experiences that WOW you? A great question to ask that will help you understand what you value about yourself is: If everything I own, and everything I love, was taken from me tomorrow, and all I had was myself…what would I be able to offer the world?
Accept Yourself As-Is
Accepting yourself means valuing who you are in the present moment, regardless of what you may have done in the past that you’d rather not think about. The good news is that you don’t have to think about it! Being able to accept yourself means no judgments, no looking back, and no looking forward. Just here and now, and who you are at this moment, including the good and the bad, the perfect and the flawed parts of yourself.
Unconditionally Love Yourself
A substantial part of increasing your self-worth is learning to love and care for yourself. Make sure you’re taken care of and that your needs are met. Practice positive and compassionate thinking about yourself, and to yourself. This is where you let go of that negative self-talk, self-loathing, and negative thinking patterns. Everybody – every one of us here on earth – have flaws and faults. It helps make up who we are as individuals. But it doesn’t negate our value.
This is where you begin to honestly realize that everything external to you – people, places, happenings – have no bearing on who you are and what you are inherently worth to yourself and the world. When these external things no longer serve you, you must learn to let them go – they are no longer part of your identity. Instead, you’ve grown a much stronger sense of self that no longer relies on these external things.
Take Full Responsibility
Now, you are in control, and it is you and only you who are responsible for your life experiences, your problems, and your unique circumstances. You have the ultimate power to control your entire world.