Why Do People Just POP Into Your Head?

So there’s this guy named Ryan. He pops into my head from time to time. It’s always a surprise when he does because he just pops up. Seriously. There’s nothing that I’m doing or thinking about that would draw him into my energy. Last night he showed up in a dream visit. He and I were sitting on a couch in our home. It was a tutor style home. The back entrance, which I guess we used all the time, had a built-in mini bar on the right when you walked in. The bar was made from walnut and was hand carved. Beautiful piece. You had to walk under a wooden archway to get to the recessed bar. Then after you grab your drink you head over to the left and there was a nice comfy couch with a big screen TV and a fireplace. If you go right instead – you would hit a mini kitchen for snacks. I guess this was our unwinding part of the home – to relax and leave the outside world behind before we would go into the main section of the house (which was KILLER BTW). Ryan had his arm around me and we were watching the news talking about our day. It was all so natural feeling.

I have had many people ask me over the years about a person popping into his or her head. For example an ex girlfriend or ex husband. People want to know why — why does this happen?

I’ve discovered two reasons for a person to POP into your head:

  1. They are thinking of you
  2. It is a soul connection

and yes, before you ask — it can be both. But it has to be at least one. If a person pops into your head, it is not so random that he or she has no connection to you. For instance, Justin Bieber will never pop into my head because thank god we have no soul connection.

A soul connection can have the two of you as soul mates, twin flames, part of the same soul cluster – group – or family. It can also be a karmic connection. When the person pops into your head, it is what I call a telepathic flash. For the split second, the two of you have a telepathic connection. You have a choice – you can let t drop or recognize it and strengthen the connection by thinking of them and encasing you both in white light.

Ryan and I have a soul connection. Were we lovers in a past life? Based on how natural it was when we were together, I would say yes. Does that mean we’re to have one in this life? Who knows? I have a soul connection with a lot of people. If I had romantic relationships with everyone I had a soul connection to, I’d wear myself out.

And so would you.

So the next time someone pops into your head, ask yourself are they thinking of you and/or is there a soul connection? Honor the connection, and go about your daily life. If anything were to come of it, it will happen.

  34 comments for “Why Do People Just POP Into Your Head?

  1. Ceri
    May 1, 2013 at 4:55 am


    How interesting that I stumbled across this today!

    Cause Last night I was actually dreaming about Ryan Gosling.

    Now, colour me confused!

    I have never even liked him. Actually I never even spared a thought for him. *scratches head*

    Well, he was not the only one I caught glimpses of in last night`s dreams, but still. I`d really never have expected to dream of this guy.

    The dream was set in a time surrounding/ after the French Revolution and had a “Scarlet Pimpernel” feel to it.

    I also dreamed of another guy, from my waking life, whom I for some reason addressed as “Wolfgang Amade Mozart” and even mentioning that he has of course incarnated under a different name now.

    I wished I could remember more than the glimpses of the dreams last night.

    But anyway such a synchronicity to stumble across this post today, and I see you have written it not too long ago.


    • June 16, 2013 at 1:45 pm

      Hey Ceri!

      Ryan Gosling….very nice πŸ™‚ We encounter so many souls during our lifetimes that we’re bound to bump into them in this life! Ryan G could have showed up in your dream because he stumbled upon your site and/or you two had a relationship in past but it was non-sexual. He could of saw your site and had a twinge of “why does she seem familiar” before he clicked off.

      Synchronicity….isn’t it wonderful πŸ™‚

      Thanks for stopping at the site and commenting!

      Take care,

      Allie πŸ™‚

  2. Beth
    July 31, 2014 at 9:39 pm

    How can you tell which is the soul connection or if that person is thinking about you?

    • Allie
      August 14, 2014 at 1:33 pm

      Hi There!

      If a person is thinking about you, they pop up in your thoughts – and it’s easy for you to dismiss them. There’s no connection.
      The harder it is to dismiss someone from your thoughts usually (but not always) means the closer the soul connection.

      Hope that helps!
      Allie πŸ™‚

  3. Kesha Heeralal
    October 1, 2014 at 3:25 pm

    what if it is just someone that you had a crush on before but he was your bestfriend’s bf so you let those feelings die down and then you really started hating him cuz he probably slapped you infront of his friends for no fault of yours?

  4. beth
    April 8, 2015 at 6:01 am

    This was the answer to my mind-boggling questions.. I have been struggling for years in moving on and forgetting about my ex. But he just kept on popping on my head and even into my dreams. So does that really mean that he could either be thinking about me too? (although he already has his new gf) or we have a soul connection? Thanks for uploading this blog.

    • Allie
      April 8, 2015 at 2:15 pm

      Hey Beth! Glad the post was helpful to you! He was thinking of you and yes, you have a soul connection. Definitely difficult to forget about someone when you have a double-whammy like that. But you can forget – if that’s what you want. Each time he pops in your head – imagine yourself pushing out a door and slamming it in his face. His energy will eventually get the hint. Good luck!

  5. Jade
    April 29, 2015 at 12:41 am

    How would I know for sure? It has been 7 years since I had seen him. And yeah he popped into my mind every once in a while since and I figured it was because I was getting over him. And he popped into my mind the other day after a few months. And he keeps popping up in my mind.

    • Allie
      May 6, 2015 at 1:14 pm

      The only way to know for sure is to ask & even then you can’t know 100% if he’s telling the truth. See if you can get a hold of him just to see how he is doing.

  6. brookelee
    July 25, 2015 at 3:58 am

    I have the same thing with my ex. He pops into my head, while driving, while showering. We’ve been broken up now for 3 years January 1st 2013. I used to pray to god that he wouldn’t pop into my head. He’d visit my dreams. We used to be together in them, but now the most recent dream was him and his girlfriend and she was pregnant. I was single for almost the whole time and just recently have begun dating someone, sadly I haven’t had any dreams of my current boyfriend. What could the dream about my ex and his current girlfriend be about?? It was like she was gloating at me. She has been in 3 dreams I think. I’ve had about ten plus dreams about him. Actually I’ve lost count.

    • Allie
      August 5, 2015 at 9:15 am

      I hate having dreams about an ex w/their current partner. It’s disturbing! Somewhere inside, you haven’t let go of your ex completely. That’s why he – and she – keep popping up in your dreams. Kind of self-torture. Before you go to sleep state sternly that no more of your energy will be taken up by him or his gf. Say it like you mean it – you don’t want them there! And they will disappear from dreamland. Good luck!

  7. Anna
    August 22, 2015 at 11:39 pm

    I have a guy that keeps popping in my mind too not to often just every once in a while never had that before but i have had people i would all of a sudden think about and call them and they were thinking about me that day or the other day before but not having them keep popping in my mind like this and this person told me that he loved me for the first time since we were in school back in the 80s i used to have a really bad crush on him too back then . So hmmmm

  8. Tenicia
    December 9, 2015 at 8:00 am

    Hi , this guy I use to mess with keeps popping up in my head. At random times, sometimes its hard to get him off my mind. When we first met we hit it off very well , like there was a instant connection but Just lately he been on my mind a lot . need answers please

    • Allie
      December 13, 2015 at 9:38 am

      Hi Tenicia! I’d be more than happy to do a reading for you so that you can get answers. Please email me directly at allietheiss @ yahoo.com.

  9. Gina
    December 20, 2015 at 4:43 pm

    hi, i use to talk like more then friends to one of my coworkers & he admitted to liking me but i never did. We ended up not talking or even being friends after a month because of his sons mom. Since then its been almost two years & i now have a son of my own, but i cannot seem to stop thinking of him.. Every now & then he’ll pop up in my head out of nowhere or in my dreams & they’ll feel so real. I need answers please?

    • Allie
      January 28, 2016 at 11:52 am

      Hey Gina! He pops up in your mind for no reason because he’s thinking of you at that moment. The reason behind why you two still think about one another probably stems from your past lives together. When you have a past life connection with someone it is difficult to let them go completely. If you’d like to talk more about this – contact me through my contact form and I can let you know about my reading services. Thanks! Allie πŸ™‚

  10. Danielle
    February 17, 2016 at 10:16 pm

    There is this guy I was seeing for a while, when we first started talking it seemed like we knew each other for a life time.
    A while ago he told me he didn’t want anything serious & he’s just trying to work on himself & get where he wants to be in life before being in another relationship. Two weeks after that he got a girlfriend. I was very upset. But then I’m like whatever I deserve better. But he still pops into my head on a daily basis & I’m like ugghh whhhyy?

    • Allie
      March 10, 2016 at 5:23 pm

      He keeps popping up because he keeps thinking of you πŸ™‚ If you don’t want him in your head – then “push” him out every time he shows up. HIs energy/soul will get the hint after a few times and stop showing up. Good luck! Allie πŸ™‚

  11. Monana
    March 19, 2016 at 11:44 am

    Hey Allie,

    Thanks for writing about this, I got here from a desperate google search for answers. I have this friend, who I’ve known for years and got close to a couple of years or so ago. He was one of those people where I had an instant connection with. It was palpable; I knew I could trust him instantly and he has yet to let me down. We vibe amazingly and yet it’s not sexual – he has a girlfriend. And it’s weird because I’ve never felt this way before. So out of respect, I decided to stop talking/messaging him (we live in different countries atm), even though all our communication was platonic. But since the few months of no contact, he frequented a dream I had one night. He’s been in my dreams before but this one was different. In all past dreams, he was rejecting me in some way or another. In this dream, he kissed me, inaudibly wanting to be together. And I promise you, I was not thinking about him that day. I’ve never been so confused in my life. What is this? We’ve never kissed, or shared any romantic time, all I know is that we indeed both find each other attractive and get along really well. So I don’t know if I’m idealizing what we have or what I should do to stop thinking about him altogether. Help me, please. Thanks in advance.

    PS: This is my first response to a thread, ever. Props to you. πŸ™‚

    • Allie
      April 24, 2016 at 10:50 am

      Hey Monana!

      Props on posting your 1st comment – glad I could help πŸ™‚

      There’s no reason to stop thinking about him. The connection you two share is a soul mate connection (we have thousands of soul mate connections – so he’s not your twin flame – but no less of an important connection). This connection is why you two clicked and were able to keep it platonic & then once you backed off, you two started to show up in each other dreams. Also because of the soul connection the kissing came in. Even if the two of you do not have a romantic relationship in this life doesn’t mean you two didn’t have one in a past life. If you’d like to talk more, we can schedule a reading. If this interests you – send me a message through my contact form.

      Thanks for writing! Allie πŸ™‚

  12. Rutdy
    March 30, 2016 at 10:23 am

    Hi Allie, I was reading your posts on Why do people just pop in your head. I had an affair in 11/2011 thru 04/2013 when it ended very bad. I fell in love with this guy who was married but I was committed too but this was the second time around that we had an affair. I really believe he was going to leave his wife for me and we were going to create on our family. But I realized at the end that he was never going to so I told his wife everything on us hoping he would show me he loved me. He never returned to me and we stop talking. I really thought we had a connection together ; he even thought my child was his when we last saw each other in 2005. I was so in love with him that it took me until last year to finally forget him. But he popped into my head yesterday and I’m not sure if its because I thought of him driving to work. I drive by every morning where we used to meet and it hasn’t distracted me in a long time but yesterday he was on mind since I woke up. I was remembering the good times we had and miss him but I know its over and he’s two timer probably with another affair. All I want to know if him popping in my head out of no where means he’s thinking of me because I always felt we had a connection when we were together. That door I had to close shut and not look back because it hurt so much when I broke it off so harsh. Last time he popped into my head he showed up back into my life and I’m wondering if him popping in my head again means he’s thinking of coming back to me? I can’t call him because I’m afraid to call and feel rejected. It’s been since 2013 that I have not seen him and even thought I’m still with my current boyfriend I miss him. Please set some light on all this for me.

    • Allie
      April 24, 2016 at 10:53 am

      Hi Rutdy!

      Thanks for writing! Yes – when he popped in your head it was because he was thinking of you. But because you drive by the place you used to meet every day – your soul is sending a “ping” to his soul – so then you pop into his head. Even though it is not a conscious thought on your end – every time you pass that spot, you trigger that energy. If you want to stop thinking of him and if you want him not to pop in your head – stop driving past the spot πŸ™‚ If you’d like to talk more, we can schedule a reading. If this interests you – send me a message through my contact form.

      Take care – Allie πŸ™‚

  13. Ellen
    April 14, 2016 at 3:35 am

    I meet this guy when we both going threw difficult times, we got along great and enjoyed a lot of the same things, we just clicked! he got all serious then took off, he kept coming back then would jet, i never seemed to get mad or anything as we never did get to serious and hes a good friend, he quickly started seeing other girls but would randomly text me to see how I was doing, I usually hear from him about every 3 months but it’s been about 5 months now and out of no where he randomly popped in my head and won’t get out for a week now! He randomly will pop into my head but usually lasts a day not a full week! I feel like I’m going crazy! I usually don’t get close to someone so quick but it just seemed like an instant connection when we met and so comfortable. So the fact I’m still thinking bout him from time to time blows my mind. When we actually haven’t hung out in over a year or seen each other.

    • Allie
      April 24, 2016 at 10:59 am

      Hi Ellen!

      Thanks for writing! The connection is so strong because he’s one of your soul mates (we have thousands of soul mates so he’s not the “one” but the connection is still important). When he does pop into you head – you are correct – he is thinking of you πŸ™‚ If you’d like to talk more, we can schedule a reading. If this interests you – send me a message through my contact form.

      Good luck! Allie πŸ™‚

  14. lia
    May 28, 2016 at 12:27 am

    Thank you for this! My ex and I have been over for almost a year now but it annoys me whenever he just suddenly pops in my head. It’s crazy to think that he thinks of me after he was the one who let go. But i do realize that you were right, we had a connection. There were we text each other at the same time or even send the same messages. I finally have an answer to why it happens all the time.

    • Allie
      June 30, 2016 at 10:10 am

      Fantastic Lia! Glad I was able to do my part in your journey of discovery!

      Take care,
      Allie πŸ™‚

  15. Nellie
    June 23, 2016 at 2:17 am

    Hi Allie,

    I met this guy about 15years ago as i was parternered with him at my cousins wedding. At the time i wasn’t open to anything as i had just come out of a long term relationship and had met another guy a week before. He was calling me and we kept in contact for a few months after the wedding but once i found out he had a girlfriend things just seemed to fizzle out. His name popped up around my wedding day as he just happened to be in town the day i was getting married which was 7 years ago and then last week i was going through youtube and stumbled on a video clip of him. I’m not sure how it happened cause now when i put in the same search phrases i can’t even find the video clip unless i put in the full title of the video. Can you please explain what this might be as we are both married yet i feel a definite connection to him this time around and cant seem to get him out of my mind.

    • Allie
      June 30, 2016 at 10:20 am

      Hi Nellie!

      It sounds to me that the two of you are part of the same soul mate group. We all have many soul mates that we’re connected to via our souls. These are the ones we tend to travel with lifetime after lifetime. Sometimes in a romantic relationship – most times not. What soul mates always do whether or not it’s a romantic relationship is soul mates push you somehow – they help you go through a transformation or to learn one of your soul lessons.

      My other site has more information about soul mates: http://outofbodyecstasy.com/.

      Best of luck!
      Allie πŸ™‚

  16. anastasia
    July 4, 2016 at 9:46 am

    It all started when I was scrolling through google and I seen a tumblr picture of a guy who worked as a male model. He was pretty popular on there. All I remember was me thinking this guy thinks he’s so cool and what not. A few months later, I had a dream about this stranger that I hadn’t met before. In my dream, I stood at the bus shelter and I seen the guy but it seemed like he was pretending as if he was just seeing me for the first time. I was trying to figure out who could it have possibly been and then it just clicked. I’ll just call him C. I thought this was pretty weird since I didn’t know him. After the dream, I went on his twitter and told him I had a dream about him ( I know most people would think this was a bad idea but I didn’t care at the time.) He seen my tweet and he liked it so I’m pretty sure he knows he did. Then I tweeted to him asking if he had the same and he didn’t reply. I ended up just leaving it for a while. Then I had another dream where he was at my house and we were sitting beside each other drawing and his friends were there but they were trying to get us to be alone and they did but he seemed like he was showing that he liked me but didn’t want to say anything. I had another dream like this that was a few days ago where he was I think teaching me how to swim and then he was at my house second time and we were watching tv with his friends there of course. He posted a music video on his twitter so I just tweeted to him that I liked it. He immediately liked it and then went on my profile and then liked another retweet of mine. This is the part that’s confusing to me. I messaged him on my twitter because ever since the first dream that I had of him we never talked to each other in real life just liking each others tweets. When I messaged him on twitter saying hey he didn’t reply so I don’t think he got the notification but even if he did I still wouldn’t think he would reply to me. It seems to me that he likes me but doesn’t want people on his twitter to know and prob doesn’t know how to talk to me since he thinks I’m going to think this situation is weird and he’s the one who came to my dream first. I sometimes get random images of his face that pops up and he also considers himself gay. I would like to know if you have an idea of why he’s not talking to me but entered my dream. I’ve never met him before in real life. I know he lives in London and I live in Canada.

    • Allie
      July 17, 2016 at 2:50 pm

      The thing about famous people in this life is that they weren’t always famous in the other lives. And if you’re not famous in this life, that doesn’t mean you weren’t famous in a past life or won’t be famous in a future life.

      As far as why he popped up in your dreams but he won’t talk to you in real life – his soul sought you out in the dreams, not his conscious self. Souls have a way of reaching out without involving the brain. This usually happens to those who are in the same soul circle. So congrats — one of your soul mates found you πŸ™‚

      Good luck!
      Allie πŸ™‚

  17. JW
    July 17, 2016 at 1:16 am

    I dated a guy 18 years ago and this year he started to pop in my head all the time and for some weird reason I miss him (scratching head). I also found out we have mutual friends on Facebook so I don’t know why if he is thinking of me why doesn’t he friend me.. This popping in my head is driving me nuts..

    • Allie
      July 17, 2016 at 2:39 pm

      Well – just because he is thinking about you doesn’t mean he wants to be friends. Or maybe he’s waiting for you to send the friend request?

      Good luck!


  18. Shan
    July 17, 2016 at 10:53 am

    Do you still reply to your email address? If so I just sent an email. If not where can I send it to?

    • Allie
      July 17, 2016 at 2:41 pm

      Yep, I do. But if it’s free advice you’re looking for I only answer that in the comments section of this website or at Outofbodyecstasy.com.

      Looking forward to your comment post!
      Allie πŸ™‚

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