Every time a person touches you does not mean that it is a sexual touch. I’m not talking about the touch of your mother or you hugging your son. I’m talking about the touch from a spouse, boyfriend girlfriend or partner. There are people who assume that when a partner touches him or her, that sexual interaction is the end game.
To help you learn the difference, here are he levels of touch I learned from my time at SCU and my mentor Dr. Patti Britton.
Continuum of Sensual Touch
- Healing – This is the kind of touch that you might pay massage therapists for. You can receive healing touch form a fried who does this for his or her own gratification or maybe from a nurse during a hospital stay. Even your honey can administer healing touch if he or she is savvy about he s/he’s doing or has taken a course on hose to channel healing energy with his or her hands. Often, healing touch is the kind you want when you are sick, tired, or in pain.
- Affection – On this part of the continuum, touch is used to show friendship, caring, and nurturance. It can even be a “Glad to see you, Frankie” kind of gesture – a hand on the shoulder or arm. Think guys patting each other’s butts on a football field as a sign of affection, support, and encouragement. The touch is playful, light, or silly.
- Sensual – Sensual touch is touch for the pleasure it gives – lavishing in touch for its own sake or to bring two people closer together. Sensual touch can lead to the next two levels of touch along the continuum, should you decide to take it that far.
- Erotic – Erotic touch is usually associated with good old foreplay to sex – it’s those kind of intimate touches, such as deep kissing or petting that often leads to sexual intercourse.
- Sexual – Sexual touch can be as simple as kissing, but can also involve anything two naked bodies might do together, including petting, oral-genital contact, penile-vaginal intercourse, G-spot stimulation, anal sex, or whatever else you can dream of. Using your bodies – including your genitals – for sexual pleasure is what distinguishes sexual touch from other kinds of touch.